It is not optional

"A man is the head, master and leader of his home, and there's nothing he can do about that."

"He will either lead effectively, or he will lead poorly, but he will lead."

"A man's failing to lead is actually a man leading in failure."

"Leading, is is NOT optional."

From a sermon by Voddie Bauchum at the 2011 Truth and Life Conference at Master's College.

Pride is the worst viper in the heart...

...it is the first sin that ever entered into the universe, lies lowest of all in the foundation of the whole building of sin, and is the most secret, deceitful, and unsearchable in its ways of working, of any lusts whatever. It is ready to mix with every thing; and nothing is so hateful to God, contrary to the spirit of the gospel, or of so dangerous consequence; and there is no one sin that does so much let in the devil into the hearts of the saints, and expose them to his delusions. I have seen it in many instances, and that in eminent saints. The devil has come in at this door presently after some eminent experience and extraordinary communion with God, and has woefully deluded and led them astray, till God

Edwards, Jonathan (2011-09-04). Distinguishing Marks of a Work of the Spirit of God (Kindle Locations 886-891).  . Kindle Edition.